Christopher John Stubbs

Yes sir. Let’s do this.

Christopher John Stubbs

The power of influence is a topic that I’m very passionate about it. I’m happy to be on with such phenomenal people as yourselves who are sharing such a powerful message. I think it’s very relevant and key that we get this message out. Because there are so many people out there who have tremendous gifts, talents, and abilities. Such huge hearts that could truly change the way business is done. They could truly change the way political systems and countries operate. They could completely change the social agreements that are not working.

There’s so much power in the hands of people that have a lot of money. However, maybe not so much heart or social consciousness.

One the greatest ways we can affect change in today’s world is to put some more power in our ability to influence things.

Not power in the sense of the word of, “I’m all powerful,” ego power.

How many of us with granted enough money, how much more would we all be doing? Would we be founding schools or whatever we’re passionate about? Maybe, teaching people how to feed themselves or freeing sex slaves. How much more of a difference could we make on all fronts? If we had a lot more resources than the hands of the people with passion, with purpose, with consciousness, and with heart. So yes, I’m excited.

Christopher John Stubbs

That’s a great question. That’s very common to have actually a resistance to the money game. That’s very common for people who discover maybe a spiritual path. Or have this deep sense of love for people and come from a place of the heart. Many times, those same people are very resistant of money and often times, that’s because they feel trapped by it.

I find going to a deeper level of transformation around this that there’s actually a lot of hurt and powerlessness around it. So, rather than owning, “I feel sad. I feel scared about money. I feel angry around the struggles I’ve had around money,” and getting to the root of healing that unhealed stuff around money.

Instead, what we do is we project onto it. Like, “Screw money,” “Screw the government,” “Screw the system.” “I’m going to just go off grid and see how much I can survive as a minimalist.” When I think really the solution is we get to figure out how to stop being consuming.

Consumer as in of like, “Let me try to feel the void within by purchasing products and things like that that temporarily give me a high.” That’s all great to simplify things and learn to fulfil the void within.

How much value I provide in the world is key not only to my success financially but also to my fulfilment internally.

It’s very critical to align the passion, the purpose, and the profits in those ways.

Christopher John Stubbs

Yeah.

Where my mind goes to right now is you asked that as some key principles that I think people really get to get attuned to.

The typical approach is how can I make money? How can I make money? How can I make money? This way people forget about the power of influence.

Christopher John Stubbs

Yes.

Christopher John Stubbs

Yes. Yes and more yes to that. Money comes into play while we try to understand the power of influence.

So, when we shift that question from, “How can I make money?” to “How can I provide the most value?” and maybe even amplify that by saying, “Who can I serve?” “What problems can I solve?” “How can I provide the most value while also gaining the greatest level of true fulfilment?” Like the deepest level of true spiritual and emotional fulfilment that I get paid double time. I get paid financially and I get paid emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. This way you can strengthen the power of influence.

Like we say, “I love what I do so much that I would do it whether I got paid or not.”  Because of that, and because it falls within my zone of genius, and because it aligns with my passion and purpose. I automatically become the best at that. I’m automatically able to provide substantially greater value than I could in any other way.

If you guys were just here to help people make money, that’s all great and grand. It helps them get some material possessions. It helps them do fun things, and have some choice. However, at the end of their life, if it didn’t also edify them in some deeper way, you didn’t provide the maximum value.

Maximum value for me would be: How can I serve them both temporarily and spiritually? Not just one or the other. The two things there are:

1. Let me focus on what value I can provide in a way that I absolutely love.
2. How much can I receive?

Christopher John Stubbs

This is an issue that most people, especially if they have a fundamentalist Christian background.  Or any other type of background where they were taught the value and importance of selflessness. They were sinned for anything that represented selfishness in any way. Then, there’s a lot of social conditioning around those words and those attitudes.

If you want to truly thrive, you must be amazing at giving as well as amazing at receiving.

Christopher John Stubbs

At the end of the day, really, there’s only one problem in all of existence. We call it the upper limits problem of how good we can stand. When we set limits, we are unable to realize the power of influence. How much good can we handle before we subconsciously sabotage it?

Christopher John Stubbs

Thank you for adding that in, this is really important in understanding the power of influence.

Dr. Gay Hendricks is amazing and he’s the guy that I learned this concept from. I really am glad that you guys interviewed him previously and that the listeners have access to that. I highly recommend guys, get over there and listen to that. For sure, it will change your life.

To expand on that further, ultimately, what I was going to was that’s the whole game. That’s like, “Hey, how much, everyday from now on for the rest of my life, can I expand into a greater capacity to give love. How much am I able to receive love and positive energy?”

Now, that can be more money. You may notice the pattern of you make a certain amount of money. Then when you outperform that, substantially, the next thing you know is you have a big downfall. You may experience that as a mindset in you that kind of has the subconscious attitude of all men. “That’s really good right now. Watch out something’s bad coming around the corner.” So many people live in that as a belief system and a norm.

Christopher John Stubbs

Instead, there’s an opportunity now to shift into, “Okay, stuff’s amazing. Chances are I’m going to hit an upper limit soon,” Instead of getting overwhelmed or trying to avoid or trying to resist it. Say, “You know what, that good news is I’m hitting an upper limit. Because if I handle this properly, that means I’m going to bust through the next level of how much goodness I can handle.”

So key would be breathe. Realize the power of influence. Slow down a little bit. Place a lot of awareness on what comes up next so that you navigate it with ease, flow, and precision.

Instead of going back into the same old sabotage patterns, you can learn from previous mistakes. Create a completely new results so that every outcome and every area of your life continuously ascends. So that it goes higher and higher to just have a game of how good can I handle life being.

Christopher John Stubbs

That is an amazing story. I really appreciate you sharing that.

That’s a key right there in understanding the power of influence. Most people when it comes to providing that value and having it turn into dollars. They think, “First, I need to get more breakthroughs.” “First, I need to have more information.” “First, I need to have a degree, a certificate, or a certification.” “Who am I to share my voice, my ideas?” “Who am I to claim anything and help anybody?”

It’s along the lines of Marianne Williamson, I think. Then they also credit it to Nelson Mandela but the “Who am I not to?” “Who am I not to shine?” “Who am I not to serve?” Who is anybody not to serve?

Christopher John Stubbs

One of the most tremendous things we could do would be to reach out. Now, that doesn’t mean you just immediately claim, “I’m awesome.” “Look at me. Hire me because I’m the best.”  However, if you just did what you did and said, “Look, I don’t know. Let’s just hop on and let me see if I can help.” If all that was generating ideas for them and having a listening ear, that was tremendous value.

Anyone can begin serving now. If you adapt the mindset instead of waiting until you’re perfect. Instead of waiting until you have the perfect packaging, instead of waiting until you have all your logo. Many people go, “Okay, I’m going to launch this business. Let me get my logo build out.” All these stuff. They spend a year developing out the stuff. Just to discover that maybe the marketplace doesn’t even give a shit about what you’re bringing to the marketplace.

The real thing is if you love yourself enough, you just start being you and serving from wherever you’re at and your ability to serve, provide value, and solve problems grows through the process and you discover if the market even wants or needs the service you’re offering or not so you can alter courses you go.

It’s not like, “I got to get my passion. I got to discover my passion, my purpose, my message, my branding and get all these built up perfectly before I release it to the world.”

Christopher John Stubbs

I spend so much time doing that and nowadays, it’s more like, “Hey, let’s try this out. Launch this.” If there are crickets, then I go “Okay, that don’t work. Next.” Like crickets, meaning like if no one’s biting, it’s nothing personal. It’s just express, give it a shot, almost like launch it and then see what happens and then, refine it as you go versus waiting and stuck in that.

I did a podcasting or a group thing and recently, it was called Procrastination and Perfectionism.

If you get stuck in perfectionism, you procrastinate and nothing ever happens.

Christopher John Stubbs

If you can get past that. Just say, “You know what? No matter what this looks like to the outside world. If I don’t get the numbers I want, if people think I’m a loser because my launch didn’t go so well, so be it.” I love myself. I value myself. It’s okay for me to poke around a little bit in the marketplace to see what people want and need.

Christopher John Stubbs

Yes.

So often the path or even the purpose, a lot of people get stuck on, “Okay, so we’re talking about passion and purpose. I’ve heard of it a hundred times from all these different sources. Just align with your passion and that’s the key.” So, then they actually use that as a crutch or a crippling mechanism to be like, “Okay, I can’t move forward yet because I haven’t discovered my passion or my purpose.”

It’s not worth waiting for that so if instead, you say, “Where does my heart want to go right now? How can I serve right now?” That maybe the stepping stone.

Your purpose isn’t a landing place. It’s not an arrival. It’s more like the horizon.

You look out and you say, “Where would I most like to go? Who would I most like to serve? What really makes my heart seeing right now?” and that doesn’t mean you’re going to land on the one and only true love of your life purpose that will last for time and all eternity.

Christopher John Stubbs

It may be more like, “This is a stepping stone to bring me to the next stage.” It might be you think that you’re there to teach health. However, that was just the first to horizon that was leading you to something bigger than that. It’s great to help people with health. That’s really important and there are a lot of health coaches out there.

However, if later on, that leads you to, “You know what? How many people could I influence? How many could I help thrive that are passionate, that are doing what they love? How many could I help that didn’t have tremendous gifts that have the ability to influence the world?” You look at the impact there.

If you influence a thousand people in a positive manner, you just influenced a million people because you’re now helping those with gifts, talents, and abilities, and heart to fully thrive and shine and make their impact in the world.

You made a much greater impact where you’re at now versus where you used to be. It’s all as a result though of originally just following that heart song and that frequency.

Like you tuned in to the radio station. That was your wave that was guiding you all along to your purpose which is ever changing. If you get hung up on one and clinging to that, then you make it so far. However, you don’t get to go to the next level or if we wait till we get it dialled in perfect, we’re never going there.

You just jump in the pool, you don’t keep reading. If you want to swim, you don’t keep reading books on swimming. You may be reading this and research, figure out a few things, watch a YouTube video. Hop in the pool and test it out and then you see what happens from there.

Christopher John Stubbs

Yeah, that’s okay.

Christopher John Stubbs

Yeah.

Christopher John Stubbs

Such a beautiful share and such an important distinction there as a big disconnect that I’ve experience in realms.

I’ll go to retreats or different meditation retreats and whatever. I have a lot of hippy friends and new age friends and healers and people with big hearts and tremendous abilities but they have this resistance to money. They have this resistance to charging thus they fail to understand the power of influence. They have this resistance to marketing and sales. They stay broke and they don’t have the ability to make that change they want.

Then, on the flipside, I have plenty of friends that make all the money in the world. They have all kinds of knowledge and skillsets around marketing, sales, and money. They easily go out and constantly thrive financially, but spiritually, they’re not fulfilled and emotionally, they’re not fulfilled and edified.

Bridging the gap between those two worlds, I think is absolutely critical for the power of influence. Helping people to realize what you just said that business is a key spiritual path.

The ultimate spiritual practice is to love all of the unloved places within us. That literally solves every issue in the world.

War, scarcity, lack, starvations, pretty much everything, the root of it is self-love.

Christopher John Stubbs

If you want to face some unloved places within you. Charge someone some money and see what surfaces in you. See if you can learn from that. Then, maybe try raising the price that you charge. Maybe then, try turning away somebody who wants your help but isn’t willing to provide value. You know that you would be enabling versus serving. Or, in another moment, maybe give it away for free because you know that it’s actually of service.

It’s not a rule that you have to charge a certain way every single time to realize the power of influence. However, it is a huge opportunity to learn. To grow when you notice a trigger or a big resistance to charging or being rejected. There’s so many layers that business brings up that if you were to not go into business for fear of those things, you would miss out on so much.

I view my 3 primary past to enlightenment or spirituality or to reaching my greatest potential. However you want to say that. I’m on not any specific order. I’m not prioritizing this in like this is more than that but my top 3 would be like:

1. Being married.
2. Being in business.
3. Being a father.

Definitely, it is a spiritual opportunity to really come to a whole place within you by just facing those fears and unloved places, leaning into them, bringing love to them and then, stretching a little further next time.

Always remain connected with your heart and truly make a positive contribution, not just chasing money.