Dean Graziosi

I’m ready to go, man.

Dean Graziosi

The book, Millionaire Success Habits could be life habits on how to have success through a positive mental attitude, but millionaire gives it this mystique.

Dean Graziosi

The fact of the matter is I’ve had such an incredible journey going from broken and broken, living in a bathroom with my dad to 100 million dollar plus companies.

During that journey, you realize the people who struggle and who don’t get to that next level life had different habits than I would see, and obsess over when I see someone happy, making more money, and reached success through a positive mental attitude.

Habits were different, and when I adopted that, again, I didn’t know I was going to write a book 25 years ago about it. When I adopted, I just saw how fast it went. As much value as we can deliver today in the short period, let’s do it.

Dean Graziosi

One of the millionaire success habits is a having vision and clarity.

Dean Graziosi

I challenge everybody to do this because I’ve done it with thousands of people.

If you ask people what they don’t want out of life, and who’s ever listening, people will rant that off as fast as humanly possible. “I don’t want the money I’m making.” “I don’t want the minimal amount of clients.” “I don’t want my boss.” “I don’t want — I don’t want — I don’t want –“

Dean Graziosi

If you stop them immediately and say “I realize what you don’t want out of life, so what would it be that you do want out of life? Where do you want to go?”

Dean Graziosi

Yeah.

Dean Graziosi

That’s without a doubt. You hit the nail on the head.

Dean Graziosi

When you stop somebody in the middle of saying all the things they don’t want or what’s not working, and you ask them what they do want, they will say, “That’s a good question.” or, “Let me think about that.”

If you take a moment, that’s like we’re running on a treadmill, and we just go from five to seven, or we’re in a Ferrari with no GPS. We’re going fast. We just don’t know where we’re going.

I have a story that anchored this in for me.

I have a partner in one of my companies, and he, with a church group, about five dads took 16 to 18-year-old boys, white water rafting in Utah or Colorado. They get there, and the rapids are a five out of five.

I don’t go white water rafting, but I heard 0-5 is the rating. These are fours and fives. All the dads are nervous. They’re watching after these kids.

This guy comes out. He’s been doing it for 25 years. He looks at the dads. He goes, “Dads, don’t get nervous. Kids, get in the boat. I want to share something with you. I’ve been doing this for 25 years. I’m not going to lose anybody if you listen to me.”

Dean Graziosi

He said, “You see my finger?” and he held up one finger. “This is called the positive point.” He goes, “Whenever I point, you just all watch me, and you paddle your guts out in the direction that I point, and we will be fine always.” He said, “I’ll never point to the rock, I’ll never point to the down tree or the rapid that could flip us over because you’ll stare at it, you’ll go right into it, and we will flip over. So remember the positive point.” That’s the same way how life goes.

The Millionaire Success Habit, one of the biggest habits I know to attaining success through a positive mental attitude. When you talk to somebody thriving, their business, life, health, relationships are on another level. They know what they want in a minute. They know where the positive point is.

Many of us don’t realize we’ve become conditioned. We’re in a hypnotic rhythm of focusing on what we don’t want, and we just continue to run in it.

We’re pointing at the rock, and we’re driving our boat right into it.

Dean Graziosi

Yeah. That’s a great question. I’ve worked on this forever.

Dean Graziosi

Some of the things I’m sharing today aren’t brand new for your listeners. It’s awesome that you’re here and spending this time together. What I hope and why I think I’ve been blessed to sell millions of books is not that what I’m sharing is brand new, and breakthrough and no one’s ever said it before, but I hope I share it in a way that it sticks.

Dean Graziosi

That’s why I know you guys are so awesome at getting such great hosts and guests on the show because you just want to give people the tools, and sometimes, it’s just like different languages. I hope this language resonates with those of you listening.

Let me answer that question in a way that just changed my life. You remember the Road Runner?

Dean Graziosi

Do you remember the Tazmanian Devil?

Dean Graziosi

Yeah.

He’d spin so fast. There was dust around him, and he couldn’t see.

I believe in our lives with social media, and Facebook, and all these credible technologies, it’s allowing us to do 10x as much in the same amount of time.

We’re doing voice memos in the car, texting at street lights, and all this crazy stuff. We’re like the Tazmanian Devil with dust around us.

Then, someone says, “Hey. Try to figure out where you want to go in life.” And they’re like, “I can’t even see a foot in front of me. How am I going to set this goal?”

Dean Graziosi

Here’s the hack that changed it for me and gave me success through a positive mental attitude.

Pretend that it’s one year from today. Pick one thing. It could be any area of your life like if you want to make more money if you want to get your speaking business to another level. Whatever it is, it’s a year from now, we’re back here, and it was the best year of your life like it’s just amazing.

You wake up in the morning feeling alive. You can’t wait to jump out of bed. There’s no stress, regrets, and worries. It’s like you were crushing it.

Dean Graziosi

Then, just start writing down what it is that the best year of your life will look like. How much money are you making? How do you feel? What’s your confidence level? When you walk through the door, what is your husband see in you? Your husband, your wife, your friend, your girlfriend, your significant others, your kids, what do they see in you?

You just start writing all this down. Then, go back and circle some of them, and realize that where it is you want to go. You want to go to that money, that feeling, that emotional state you’d be in, that winning state of mind or whatever it is. Then, what you have to realize is another thing that people who have success through a positive mental attitude do well say “No.”

Dean Graziosi

Entrepreneurs, to get where we are, and to all the things you do, we’ve said “Yes” more than most people. We say “Yes” to working more, to taking on new adventures, to staying up at night, and getting shit done. We do all that stuff.

“Yes” got you here and “No” will take you to the next level.

“Yes” got you out of Egypt, as one of my mentors says, and “No” will get you to the promised land.

When you want vision, pretend it’s a year from now, and it’s the greatest year of your life. Write down what the heck it is that would make the greatest year of your life ever.

Dean Graziosi

Then, the things that don’t fit that vision, sometime, should be on your not-to-do list. It’s time to start saying “No” so more focus can be on the things that match your vision, your bigger purpose, your full potential, or your next level.

Once you have that vision of what the greatest year of your life looks like, start saying “No” to things that don’t fit that vision.

Dean Graziosi

Absolutely.

Dean Graziosi

If we live in the present, we’re the best we can be.

If we take our past, this research and development, take what serves us, and burn the rest down, throw the rest away, and live in this moment just with some things in the past that help us, we know that’s better. We are aware if we’re worried about tomorrow, we’re usually stressed and anxious.

We want to live in the present, but I believe, as we’re in the present, we need just to know exactly where it is we’re going today, and whether that’s more gratitude or next level of freedom or helping others.

Dean Graziosi

I think most entrepreneurs evolve to get themselves out of crap. Then, they take care of the people they love, and then they start taking care of the world.

Dean Graziosi

Every entrepreneur I know who has reached success through a positive mental attitude gives back more than anyone would ever realize. It’s rare you find a selfish self-me person who’s an entrepreneur that’s not giving. I could see that evolution for sure.

There are a lot of great morning routines out there. Everybody has a different strategy. Again, this one might resonate and stick with everybody listening.

Dean Graziosi

I believe as people who want to go to another level, one of the greatest things we can do for ourselves, the people we love, and the world, is to protect our confidence.

Without confidence, we don’t make smart decisions. We don’t go for what we want out of life. We don’t go for the relationship, for the business, and for the next level. We don’t jump out on stage. We don’t launch our product.

Confidence can be the killer and make you play small. It gets you to stand on the sidelines your whole lives, and watch everybody play big, and you just think “Someday, I’ll jump in,” and that someday never comes.

I’m always looking for hacks and habits to protect my confidence to have success through a positive mental attitude.

One is to set my day up to that way.

Dean Graziosi

I’m going to share my routine. Please listen, take it, and beat it up any way you want. But I know we don’t have an hour to get ready, some people do, to meditate and get the perfect space. If you do, that’s great. If you don’t, here’s what I do.

At night, I always put my phone on airplane mode. That’s something I learned from Arianna Huffington who started Huffington Post. I spent a day with her once, and she said she’d wake up, and her emotions would always be tethered to what was on her phone.

Dean Graziosi

If a text came through that was good, it might put her in a good state. If a text came that was concerned or a business thing, it would immediately put her in a state of mind, and either maybe to play defense for the day or offense or, less confidence or more confidence. She just decided airplane mode until that morning routine is over. I stole that from her.

Then, when I wake in the morning, the first thing I try to do is I’ve lowered the bar of gratitude.

If you’re listening right now, you probably accomplished many incredible things in your life more than you probably give yourself credit for.

Dean Graziosi

Subconsciously, we find gratitude by thinking these big things like I’d be grateful or ungrateful for my next level of business, and sometimes, it’s hard to see that. Again, back to the Tazmanian Devil, the dust around us is hard to acknowledge.

When I open my eyes, I try to find gratitude at the moment.

I’ve said, “These sheets feel amazing today. I am grateful for having this bed, and these sheets.” 150,000 people died today, or 150,000 will die tomorrow. If you Google it, that’s the number. It’s like, you wake up, you can lower it so much to say, “My eyes opened.” and I just find a way to flood myself literally, for minutes. I’m not talking about a 10-minute routine. I’m talking minutes to find something I can find gratitude for. I feel like I’ve fed my soul, and then I immediately feed my body.

Dean Graziosi

I just feel like if I can nourish my body so, I’ll go a green drink with lemons, some MCT oil, and a couple of natural stuff. Then I feel like I fed my body, and then I move.

I don’t know about anybody listening, but for me, as a busy entrepreneur, a dad, and a fan of baseball, softball, and dance, if I don’t exercise or move in the morning, I know it doesn’t get done. I’ll get sucked into my day and my routine. I just want to keep the momentum, so I feed my soul and my body, and then I move.

Dean Graziosi

When I get back, I have a little routine I do with my kids, and then one word I’ve added to a to-do list for the day is what I get to do. When I added the word “get,” it changed everything for me.

I don’t like Tuesdays. A lot of times, I do conference calls and meet with my accountants and CFO. I feel it’s like “Ugh!” It was always frustrating, and then I said, “I couldn’t serve people, sell millions of books, touch people’s lives, or do any of that if I didn’t do all of it.”

Now, when I say, “Oh, I don’t have to do that conference,” I get to do that. I get to meet with my accountant because all of it adds up to the life I love and the dad I am.

Dean Graziosi

I love the man I’ve become. I love the leader I’ve hoped to be. I love the books I write. If all of that wasn’t a part of it, I couldn’t do any of it. When I changed “what I get to do” instead of “what I have to do” on my to-do list, that sets my day up.

I told you all that just because that helps me protect my confidence when I do that right, and I still screwed up. But if I do that right, my day is set. I’m on fire and ready to attack anything. There’s nothing that could put me on defense. I get to play offense all day.

Dean Graziosi

It impacts all of it.

With all the things you guys have accomplished in your life, and things I have no idea, but you did to be where you are.

We attack and approach things differently when we have the confidence, or we feel like we want to do it.

Dean Graziosi

Our thoughts can mess with us so much. Your confidence is off just 5%, and you attack it in the wrong way, or you don’t at all.

You’re saying about that vision and clarity of knowing where you want to go. I got this from Arianna Huffington about creating a not-to-do list and things that shouldn’t be there. She said, “Some of the best ways to finish a project is to quit doing it for the rest of your life.”

You find those things out when you know where it is you want to go, and you know what you want out of life, and what invigorates you, gives you enthusiasm, excitement for life.

Dean Graziosi

When you start saying “No,” there are things we think we need to do or have to do. We can just say “You know what? I’m never repeating it. It robs my confidence. It doesn’t fill my soul. It doesn’t bring me towards my bigger future. It’s gone forever.”

All of sudden, that space opens up, and that’s where people who have success through a positive mental attitude get momentum.

When you start saying “No,” there are blocks of times, energy, and enthusiasm that can be driving you towards that next level.

Dean Graziosi

Yeah.

Dean Graziosi

I love it.

I just saw a statistic where adults right now are spending four and half hours a week on average on social media. Think of that four and half hours, and people in our business probably do more because it’s attached to us. It’s seeing and forgetting momentum.

Dean Graziosi

Where else could that four and half hours go or even your attention? When you’re looking at social media, and you’re with a friend, they’re not getting all of you. They are just getting a piece of you, and what parts of your life are you missing out?

I commend you for that. That’s awesome.

Dean Graziosi

I would just dig in to see why you want it all.

I know everybody talks about “Why?” It’s a buzzword.

Dean Graziosi

It’s about getting to your heart of why you want to do anything that you’re doing, why you’re listening now, why you want to start your business, why you want to go to the next level. It’s always deeper than what you think.

We want freedom, gratitude, and all the things we want. Keep asking yourself, “Why do I want that?” and “Why do I want that?”

The deeper we go, the more we get out of our head, and we start getting into our heart why we want what we’re doing.

When you attached a “why,” write it on your computer. Put it in your wallet or refrigerator because days get tough, business goes wrong, life goes wrong, and when you think you just want to do it for financial freedom, sometimes, you can give up on your dreams.

Dean Graziosi

Whether it’s to be the best you, to be the best father, parent, to be in control of your life, to help other people, to change the world, when you have that “Why” and remind yourself, it can get you through the tough days.