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I’m ready to launch.

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There’s a popular quote, Luis that says, “Birds of the same feather flock together.” and sometimes, a lot of people are among others who just project negativity. These may be people that we love, our friends, or our family, but they can be the biggest obstacle and preventing us from reaching the finish line.

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The first thing that a person needs to do is to be conscious of their environment.

Who are they hanging out with? Are they listening to music that empowers them or disempowers them? Are they in a loving, nurturing environment? Or are they in an atmosphere that supports doubt and fear?

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That’s a great question, and yes. The finish line varies for different people.

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For one person, the finish line may be financial. For another person’s finish line may be regarding more to their health. It all varies.

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For sure.

As we tell about previously, the environment is first and foremost on how to succeed in life.

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Once a person has created a very supportive, nurturing environment, and have committed to their personal development, the next thing would be goals.

There’s this system I set up called the Three M Metric. Typically, goals are set on a pass or fail model. Someone once said this like “If I do this by this day, I pass. I’m successful, and if I don’t do it, I fail.”

Often, I think that’s the worst way to do it because they’re setting themselves up for failure, and not for success.

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What I teach is setting parallel goals.

By setting parallel goals, you’re setting yourself up for success because all you have to do is meet one metric.

Going into the three metric, you have your minimum goal, your moderate goal, and your maximum goal.

Let’s have an example.

Weight loss is a popular thing nowadays. Let’s just say a person wants to lose weight. One person says “Okay, I want to lose 30 pounds.”

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A minimum goal is something you believe you can achieve. For example, a person says “I want to lose 10 pounds in one month. I know I can do that.” That’s the minimum goal. There’s no doubt in your mind. They’re 100% confident they can achieve that goal.

The moderate goal is a step up and is something that you think is a realistic attempt, and you feel like you can accomplish it. You’re not 100% confident, but you’re about 65% – 75% sure, and you think it’s a realistic attempt. That same person may say, “Well, you know what? I want to lose 20 pounds in one month.”

And then, you have the final one, which is the maximum goal. If you achieve that goal, it will surprise you, and it will blow you away.

That person may say, “I want to lose 30 pounds in one month.”

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The thing about parallel goals, Kamala and Luis, is all you have to do is meet one metric to be successful. That’s all you have to do.

The person lost 10 pounds, 20 pounds, 30 pounds with that month, they’re still successful. So they’re setting themselves up to succeed than to fail.

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We do!

I tell people, the last thing you want to do which I hear this all the time, “You know what I’m going to do? I’m just going to wait until the New Year, so I get a fresh start.”

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You can always start tomorrow. You can start today.

A lot of times, people put off their goals and dreams into the New Year like it’s the best time to start. They don’t realize that year after year they fail, they’re getting the same repetition, “I’ll wait until next year.” and they’re wasting so much time.

We’re all gifted to enjoy this human experience, and we don’t know how long we’re going to be here. It’s in our best interest to make the most of our time.

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Eventually, with persistence and tenacity, that person will get there.

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Okay. We’ll look at it from all through three different sides. As I always say, a coin has three sides. You have two sides of the coin, and you have the middle.

There are introverts, ambiverts, and extroverts.

I’m an introvert. I’m not a person that the life is the party. I don’t go to events where there are thousands of people. I’m typically more or less a home buddy. I like to go out and socialize, but at the same time, I’ve enjoyed my own company.

For a person like an introvert, they’ll probably be likely to listen to a more music a lot or read more books. Again, that person has to understand, “Is this song, is this album, is this book empowering me or is it disempowering me?”

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A lot of them don’t realize that music and books affect us on a subconscious level the more we listen to it and the more we read it. I think it’s essential to take a note of that. The song may have a great melody, a great beat. But if these are promoting fear, anger, disempowerment, negativity, even though it may be a great track or beat, it doesn’t serve our best interest.

If we look at extroverts, they’re very social. They like to go out a lot; bars, parties, and things of that nature. That’s typically what they do. They do other things obviously. It’s crucial that they’d be very conscious of who they’re surrounding themselves with.

If they’re always around people who are complaining, who are pessimistic, who do not see the beauty in life, even though that person does not necessarily agree with them, just being among their presence is having that gradual, subtle effect on that person’s self.

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That person indefinitely removes themselves from that environment and find groups in where people are like-minded or optimistic. They’re supportive, nurturing, and ambitious.

Find groups that cater to you that are going to help you reach the finish line.

Ambiverts is a combination of the two because ambiverts are not necessarily introverted or extroverted. They take something from both sides.

What I said about introverts and extroverts, the ambiverts just take both of those suggestions and use that to their advantage.

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Yes.

A lot of people think that “If I become successful, all of my problems are going to go away. I’m not going to face adversity.” It’s just a more from a disempowering, frustrated life to living in a utopia, and that’s simply not the case.

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There’s a lot of things that come into our lives, and they will continue to.

Myself, I suffer from an autoimmune disease. My house got caught in a fire this year. None of that is comfortable, but the key is how you respond to it. Initially, you may react negatively to it, which is normal.

It is “How long do you bask in that negativity? How long do you stay in that hole? At what point are you going to pull yourself out and know that this is temporal, and better things are ahead?”

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These types of trials are normal.