Secret of Success – Jack Canfield
SUMMARY
Secret of success is not one single element, it is multifaceted. Some people feel that they are stuck at some point in their lives. They have read different types of books, gone to all seminars, but still, they’re not making any progress. In this interview with Jack Canfield, founder of Chicken Soup for the Soul, seminar leader, corporate trainer, and entrepreneur, he shares his proven success formula and principles and how these can be applied in our daily lives. He also shares some exercises that would shift your whole life
MUST HAVE RESOURCES
Chicken Soup for the Soul Series by Jack Canfield & Various Authors
The Power of Intention by Dr. Wayne Dyer
Tapping and The Ultimate Success by Nick Ortner
The Success Principles by Jack Canfield
Spread Your Message And Help More People – The Podcasters Secret Weapon
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Reasons why people aren’t making a change1. People don’t have the complete system of what they need to do in order to be successful- People are missing an emotional element, the why or the purpose. They don’t have goals, visions, support group, and a mastermind partner.
- Secret of success is knowing the combination to a lock. If you know the combination to the lock, you can open it.
- If you understand the Universal Law, and you apply that correctly, then literally, you can achieve anything you want that’s the secret of success.
- Everything you’re currently experiencing is a result of how you responded to everything else that happened earlier in your life.
- E + R = O (E stands for Events plus your Response to that event or those events equals the Outcomes that you get.)
- All feelings are outcome of thoughts you’ve had and the meaning you’ve made out of events, and also the actions you take or don’t take.
- Most successful people are operated by the universal set of principles that include no complaining, no blaming, no excuse making, take 100% responsibility for your results.
One of the exercises you could do is ask yourself these questions which will help you to find the secret of success- What did I do or not do that’s producing my current reality?
- What can I do differently and when will I do that?
- What payoff do I get for keeping up like it is?
A lot of people are suffering because there’s a pay-off.We’re addicted to comfort but the problem is growth occurs when you’re uncomfortable, it lies in getting uncomfortable.We all have to be taking risks but you can’t grow if you’re not taking risks. The secret of success in your career comes down to taking risks.Everything you want that you currently don’t have is outside of your comfort zone. That’s where all the good stuff is and obviously the secret of success as well.If you’re not a little bit uncomfortable every day, it means you’re not growing, secret of success lies in getting uncomfortableYour life is a constant balancing going back and forth. It’s a vibration.When we stop vibrating, we stop being alive. When we stop being a little bit uncomfortable if you will, then we’re dead.You have to have clarity about your purpose and you get that by going inside and getting connected to that universal spirit. When we connect with that, we become enliven and we vibrate at a higher level.There’s a vibration in nature that we can pick up and if you get your bare feet on the earth, you pick up the vibrational frequency of the earth as well which is really important.Green has a vibration that’s very healing.We’re connected to that God energy, not only through vibration, but also through meditation and prayer. Secret of success comes down to our relationship with God.We work best when we’re plugged into energy called source energy or GodWhen you go into fear or into negative reaction of any kind, your body and your energy field contracts. Secret of success is not attributed to negative thoughts.You work better when you’re calm and relaxed, this is one important secret of success legends recommend.Bodies of people watching violent film respond in a state of fear.The crucial factor in watching negative films and movies is your reaction to it.If you’re not a meditator, it takes you hours to get back to a normal state. If you meditate for 20-30 minutes a day, you’ll have a quick reaction but you’ll go back to neutral really quickly.We have control over where we put our body.We should surround ourselves with positive influence, positive environment is the secret of success.Some people are stuck because their habits are so strong and they have no technology for how to overcome and replace those habits with good new habitsIt takes about 66 days for most things to become new habits, some things as much as 120 days.Create at least one new powerful habit a quarter, every year which is a well proven secret of successA lot of people are afraid to ask questions because they’re afraid what they’re going to hear but you can’t get better without feedback.The other thing that’s really critical to change is that you need to have an accountability partner, that’s secret of success in personal and professional livesMany people are solo entrepreneurs so they tend not to hold themselves accountable for anything.One of the real secrets is you have to have an accountability system build in. That can be a coach, a mentor, an accountability partner where you get on the phone every morning as what I teach.We have to look out what’s the fear because it’s the reason why most of us tend to not do the things we need to do.All fears are self-created by imagining scary things that haven’t happened yet happening in the future.Tapping can be used to handle our fears.People get stuck because of fear, lack of accountability and, limiting beliefs. And you can also use tapping to get rid of limiting beliefs.Do exercise for limiting beliefs to surface what those beliefs areWe make some decisions in life to play it safe and to avoid things causing us pain.Do mirror exercise every night before going to bedWe all have shadows inside us like your decision that you couldn’t be comfortable and happyWhen you start loving yourself and complimenting yourself, it’s going to surface things that had been buried because the love is going to start vibrating all that which is not aligned.What we really have to do to heal is to allow what’s buried to surface.Being in a workshop with people or being in a coaching experience will give you more energy to vibrate your system and loosen up the stuff that’s stuck inside you. The secret of success lies in having better coachingTRANSCRIPTION: SECRET OF SUCCESS – JACK CANFIELD
Luis CongdonToday’s guest is Jack Canfield. I’m sure you’ve heard of the book that sold 500+ million copies. It has been translated in over 40 languages. Chicken Soup for the Soul Series has over 250 titles now published.Jack Canfield has made a big imprint with his work on success, secret of success and success principles. He’s also a seminar leader, corporate trainer, and entrepreneur.I’m truly honored and inspired to bring to you Jack Canfield and to welcome him to the show.
Kamala Chambers What does it take to be truly successful? What does it mean to be successful in business and in life? What is the secret of success?Maybe you’ve had this experience where you’ve read all the books, you’ve gone to all the seminars, and you’re still not making the progress that you want to make and then you are trying to find this secret of success.Well, today we’re going to uncover from the success guru himself what is the only secret of success and how to apply success principles into your daily life for true results.Welcome to the show Jack Canfield! It is so fantastic to be here with you. Are you ready to launch?
Jack Canfield I am ready. Thank you for having me.
Kamala Chambers All right!One thing that we noticed a lot and I that you’ve seen this a lot too is people go to a lot of seminars, they read a lot of books but then the change doesn’t happen. And I know you’re a master of success and a master at teaching success.And I would love to hear why people aren’t really making the change?
Defining secret of success in real, raw terms
Jack Canfield Well, I think there are number of reasons why people aren’t making the change.
- People don’t have the complete system of what they need to do in order to be successful.
Limiting beliefs and the secret of success
Jack Canfiel2. The biggest problem of all that stuff is people have limiting beliefs that are unconscious. They don’t even know they have them. That’s stopping them from being able to do the things they need to do.Imagine this, if you were getting on a plane and you saw a 6-year old getting on the plane with the pilot, most people would get a little nervous and yet most of us are running around as adults being guided by decisions we made at 6 years old to protect ourselves, to compensate for abuse, for being bullied, for being teased, having failure experiences, having parents who are uncomfortable around money, around success, around rejection, etc. That’s a long answer but we can delve into the specifics as we go through the conversation. In fact, the secret of success lies in breaking through limiting beliefs.
Kamala Chambers That’s fantastic stuff. The fact that you’re really sending people up for success by having the accountability, by having the action plan, and by having the support in place makes all the difference. I know that we’ve seen that with our clients and that you’ve really created systems to make that possible for people.I’d love to hear some more success principles, the secret of success from you and things that you feel are absolutely necessary to have success in our lives.
Jack Canfield One of the biggest things that people don’t do is take a 100% responsibility for every aspect in their life. I teach that everything you’re currently experiencing is a result of how you responded to everything else that happened earlier in your life. Secret of success is aligned with self- responsibility.There’s a little formula I teach: E + R = O.E stands for Events plus your Response to that event or those events equals the Outcomes that you get.So an outcome might be you’re overweight. An outcome might be you don’t have enough money. An outcome might be you don’t have friends and you’re lonely. An outcome might be you’re unemployed. An outcome might be you’re wealthy, or happy, or healthy, etcetera.So, what is it that allows one person to be successful when another person not when they grow up in the same conditions, same recession occurs, they live in the same town, often, they’re identical twins, one’s successful, one’s not is that the thoughts we think in relation to an event. Secret of success is just more than what we experience in our daily lives.People think thoughts like, “I’m never going to be successful,” “I’ll never find somebody,” “I’m stupid,” “There’s no man in this town for me,” and blah blah blah blah. And so we have our thought, we have our images that we hold in our head like I say we’re going to stand up and everyone’s going to dance. Some people get excited and see themselves having a good time and some people imagined they’re going to get up and look like a fool and they feel uncomfortable. Law of attraction is really important aspect of the secret of success.All feelings are outcomes of thoughts you’ve had and the meaning you’ve made out of events, and also the actions you take or don’t take. So the only thing you have any control over are your thoughts, the images you create in your mind, and the actions you take which includes the things you say and do. Secret of success lies in controlling your thoughts.What I did is I studied 75 of the most successful people in North America; generals in the army, top sales peoples, CEOs, Olympic, and professional athletes, millionaires and billionaires, etc. I found that there was a set of principles that they all operated by, some consciously and some unconsciously but there was a universal set of principles.
Jack Canfield That’s one secret of success. Then, what happens when you do that is you start saying, “Okay. If I’m experiencing this thing I don’t want,” let’s say pain, suffering, struggle, then, “How am I creating that?”So one of the exercises that I do with all my clients is to let them say, “What’s the difficult or troubling situation in my life?” “How am I creating that?” “What yellow alerts did I get that this is going to become a problem that I ignored?” My back was getting sore. I was starting to put on weight. People were telling me this is not the way you keep a marriage alive. My wife saying, “Hey, you don’t spend enough time with the kids. You come home late. You never listen.” Asking these questions is important to recognize the secret of success on our own.We’re looking at “What did I do or not do that’s producing my current reality?” And then, “What can I do differently and when will I do that?” And also, “What payoff do I get for keeping up like it is?”A lot of people are suffering because there’s a pay-off. They get commiseration from your friends. They don’t have to take a risk. They avoid loss of face, loss of friendship, loss of money, etc. But usually, it’s just comfort. We’re addicted to comfort. The more you are addicted to comfort, the less likely is you can find secret of success.In fact, a friend of mine was just in the mountains of Ecuador working with the shaman. This shaman said the problem with the people of the North, referring to the United States, is we’re all addicted to comfort. And you think about this, we love our big couch, our TV, our nice car, and our good music. We want to be warm and well taken care of. However the problem is growth occurs when you’re uncomfortable, and the secret of success lies in the fact that you are out of the comfort zone. It occurs when you’re jumping out of a plane, skydiving. It occurs when you ask your boss for a raise. It occurs when you ask that woman for a date. It occurs when you put your book out there for someone to judge. And so we all have to be taking risks but you can’t grow if you’re not taking risks. So we’re addicted to that comfort zone that we find ourselves.
Jack Canfield And so I teach people if you’re not a little bit uncomfortable every day, it means you’re not growing. I think Bob Dylan had that in one of his songs, “If you’re not busy growing, you’re busy dying,” because there’s no static point.Your life is a constant balancing going back and forth. It’s a vibration. For something to vibrate, it has to go right and left, or up and down, or in and out. And so, if it stops vibrating, it’s dead.When we stop vibrating, we stop being alive. When we stop being a little bit uncomfortable, then we’re dead.
Secret of success is knowing your relation with God
Luis CongdonFor some reason, that reminds me of a quote from Osho and I don’t remember the verbatim but he said something along the lines where something about being closer to God somehow people are also more productive or creating more in the world and he’s trying to create this connection between being spiritually sound and the productivity that comes out of people. And to me, that was a really beautiful quote about productivity and how there’s spiritual rules that if we follow them, it really helps us. Secret of success is to be on a spiritual path.I’m also thinking something personal about you. I’ve heard and I read somewhere so I don’t know this personally so I’m asking you. I will find out now. I’ve heard that you really don’t like to watch violent films. You don’t like people to gossip around you. You really work hard to filter that out of your life. When I read that, I started to wonder how does a father do that, how does a busy businessman do that, how does a man that lives in a world, very much in the world, do that? Do you think this is essential part of the secret of success?
Jack Canfield First of all, I totally agree with Osho. I teach people you have to have clarity about your purpose and you get that by going inside and getting connected to what we call the God-self, the universal intelligence, God, source energy, infinite wisdom. Knowing God is the secret of success. We all have a connection to that universal spirit. When we connect with that, several things are happening. We become enliven and we vibrate at a higher level.
Luis CongdonBeautiful.
Jack Canfield If you’ve been around Osho and some of those teachers, there’s this thing called Darshan where you literally just change in your energetic vibration by being in their presence whether it’s the Dalai Lama or Sai Baba or Jesus Christ or whoever if you could get in their space. The energetic vibration that comes through spirituality is an integral part of the secret of success.
Luis CongdonOr tree or something that lights you up. I want to make sure that everybody knows that this is accessible to at all times and it’s around you everywhere.
Jack Canfield Absolutely. It’s in nature. Connecting to nature is so much important to know the secret of success.In fact, one of my best friends is this uptight businessman for many years and I finally got him to hug a tree. We took a picture of it. What happens there’s energy that’s vibrating in this tree and you can get that.I answered a question for Inked Magazine where they asked a bunch of questions like, “What do you do in the afternoon besides coffee to keep your energy up?” One of the things I do is I walk outside and I get into greenery. There’s a vibration in nature that we can pick up and if you get your bare feet on the earth, you pick up the vibrational frequency of the earth as well which is really important to know the secret of success.But anyway, the idea is get in nature. If you look at a hospital, when you go into the recovery room, they are all painted in green. The reason is green has a vibration that’s very healing and so nature obviously whether it’s green trees and all that is important.One of my friends was a breatharian. She literally went 2 years without eating any food. If she didn’t get into nature, every day she would start to weaken. So she was getting a lot of her spiritual and physical energy from the trees which she associate to secret of success. So you’re absolutely correct about that. But basically, we’re connected to that God energy-a core element of secret of success, not only through vibration, but also through meditation and prayer.For example, you’re talking about productivity. When I meditate every morning, I invariably get down-lows of things that I need to do that I’ve been ignoring, prioritization of things that are on my list that I need to that now, the title for Chicken Soup for the Soul which eventually resold that company for literally tens and tens and tens and tens of millions of dollars. That title, which is now a brand worth a billion dollars, came through meditation.I literally closed my eyes and everyday said, “God, please give me a title for this book,” and on a Wednesday of that week, I saw a chalkboard. A hand came out and wrote, “Chicken soup” on it. And I said, “What does have to do with this book?” And a hand, which I assumed was God’s hands, said, “When you were sick as a kid, your grandmother gave you chicken soup.” And I said, “But this is not a book about sick people.” And the voice said, “People’s spirits are sick. They’re living in resignation, helplessness, and fear.” This is spirituality becomes an integral part of secret of success.This was 1993, the first Gulf War, we’re watching it televised on TV every day. It was recession that happened so it was like huge amount of pension and pain much like we had just a few years ago when Wall Street melted down. If I was not meditating and tapped into that spiritual conduit, I would not have been able to get that title.A friend of mine gave me a poster recently. It said, “An iron worked best when it’s plugged into energy called electricity.” And we work best when we’re plugged into energy called source energy or God. So I totally agree with Osho to have unique connection with God in order to recognize the secret of success.
Negativity does not contribute to the secret of success
Jack Canfield Secondly, go back to your negativity, which does not contribute to the secret of success. Whenever you contract, they give a hose. If you want to cut off the water supply of a hose, you bend a hose, which contracts the hole that the water is moving through and it slows down or stops the flow of water.The secret of success lies in the fact that you are always optimistic. When go into fear or into negative reaction of any kind, your body and your energy field contracts. We can actually see that with advanced technology that can see bio magnetic fields and so forth.So basically, when you’re in fear, the energy goes back to the part of your brain called the amygdala and what happens is you’d no longer in the prefrontal cortex which is where creative thoughts, rational thinking, executive functions, and spiritual insights occur. This is why the 3rd eye is located in the front of the forehead. The symbol of the unicorn’s horn which makes it a mystical being comes out of that. Staying away from negative energy is important to know the secret of success.So basically, we don’t want to be in fear and when you hear about ISIS and all these things going on in the world, and you watch negative movies, war movies, horror movies, your body is contracting. It’s also increasing adrenaline sometimes and some people are adrenaline junkies that’s why they steal cars and jump out of planes and so forth. But the reality is that you work better when you’re calm and relaxed. Your calmness is secret of success in your lives. This is why martial artists, whether you’re an Aikido master or the Kung Fu master, study meditation because you have to be mindful in the present moment or you’ll be distracted by your thoughts and you get whacked on the side of the head or hit in the stomach.
Luis CongdonThis is really leading me into this other space and very quickly, I remember reading The Power of Intention with Dr. Wayne Dyer where he talked about some studies where people watched violent films and people that are accustomed to watching violent films or not, their bodies would still respond in a fear state.How do you cut some of that off? What if your friends and family want to go see an action film or what if someone around you is gossiping and diving deep into this negative state? What do you do? How do negative environment contribute to the secret of success.
Jack Canfield Well, I’ve seen a few action films. The key is, something that Abraham said through Esther Hicks not too long ago was that, “The thing about negative news and movies, action films, and all that kind of stuff is you’re reaction to it. It’s your reaction to the action. If you can watch the negative news and stay neutral, that’s fine. Some people could do that. Actually staying away from the negativity is the secret of success in business and life.In fact, if you go back to the Wayne Dyer stuff you were talking about, one of the things they watched with meditation research is that if I show you a film of a guy in a sawmill and all of a sudden, he cuts part of his hand and it bleeds excessively. If you’re not a meditator, it takes you hours to get back to a normal state. If you’re a meditator and you meditate for 20-30 minutes a day, then what happens is you’ll have a quick reaction but you’ll go back to neutral really, really quickly. So you don’t stay in that disturbed state all day along, which a lot of people do. Let the negativity go if you really want to know the secret of success.One person can get caught off in traffic in the morning on the way to work, and at noon, they’re still upset about it whereas if someone else can have it, in 10 minutes later, they’ve let it go.So I do watch a little bit of news because I can afford to walk into a room in New York and run a workshop and have 9/11 just happen that I don’t know about it.
Luis CongdonI get what you’re saying and I totally agree with what you say about the secret of success. I just wanted to know if that rumor, how true it was or what an extreme. I just wanted to gauge where I was at.
Jack Canfield The truth is I limit that. I don’t watch a lot of news. I get most of it actually from reading things like The Huffington Post and CNN online. So I don’t watch a lot of that. The other thing is I limit the amount of movies I watch and television. My wife loves to watch The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Quite frankly, I don’t get into that though. I don’t see the point. But the reality is that I want to spend my time focusing on things that lift my spirit, give me more wisdom. Things that lift you up are the secret of success in your life.I’ve read over 3,000 books in my life and I claim that a lot of my success is because I learned something new every day and I applied them in my life. The other thing is I don’t get engage in gossip and rumors and I don’t spend a lot of time listening to negative music. Secret of success in your life is all about how much positive you are. As much as I like country music, you have to be really careful. Have you heard about the joke what you get when you play a country music song backwards?
Luis CongdonYes.
Jack Canfield Their car back, their wife back, their truck back, their farm back, all that stuff exactly.You want to surround yourself in a positive environment as much as possible because we used to tell our kids “Don’t hang out with her. Those kids are bad influence.” Well, people and things don’t stop being a bad influence when you’re 21 years old. So the one thing we have control over is where we put our body. You can put your body in a monastery and you can meditate or you can put your body out on the street in a gang infested neighborhood, you’re going to have 2 different reactions. The secret of success in your life is how you choose things. With much freedom you have, we should exercise that to surround ourselves with positive influence.
Luis CongdonAll you Thriving Launchers listening, that come back to the show on a regular basis, we’re not just creating a show so that you’re tuning in. We’re bringing Jack because Jack has a way of working with people and shifting them and all of our guests have that ability, and each of them have a different approach to secret of success. The more that you tune in, the more that you’ll find your change.Here’s a question that I have for you Jack and it’s one that’s burning inside of me since we began to just have our pre-chat. I used to be one of these guys that would go to all these different seminars in search of secret of success. I had all these programs on my computer and I was consistently stuck. It felt like more than anything else addicted to buying the programs and studying and knowing what the new, latest terms were. I was going into Eckhart Tolle, Abraham Hicks, Dr. Wayne Dyre, and all these people to know the only secret of success, but I wasn’t making a shift.I’m curious from you to learn, what is it necessary be on just this education piece for us to make that transformation, like knowing the unique secret of success. Why are people stuck and how can they get unstuck? Why do they even fail to know the secret of success.
Jack Canfield Well, I think there are a lot of different reasons to fail in knowing the secret of success. Some people are stuck because they’re habits are so strong and they have no technology for how to overcome and replace those habits with good new habits, just to talk about that for few minutes.A lot of times we’ve been told that if we could do something for 30 days, it becomes a habit. There’s new research about London that says it takes about 66 days for most things to become new habits, some things as much as 120 days.So what I teach my students is you want to create at least one new habit a quarter, every year. Habits that are powerful in knowing secret of success. They are powerful like drinking more water, exercising, meditating, being grateful, doing good, writing your goals down, visualizing on the night before so your subconscious can work on them, visualizing your goals as achieved every morning with a strong emotional component to that so your subconscious gets really behind it, and so forth. If we do that, every year, we have 4 new habits. So think about then, 10 years, you have 40 new productivity habits, health habits and relationship habits.Like my wife and I make sure we talk to each other at night and clear up anything that’s not clear between us. We appreciate each other every day. Every Friday or Sunday, depending on if I’m traveling for the weekend or not, we will do the following exercise. I’ll say to her, “On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate the quality of our relationship this week? Anything less than a 10 gets a follow up question “What would it take to make it a 10?” I’ve gotten as low as a 4. I’m bad. Great relationships create positivity in our lives and it is essential aspect of secret of success.I remember when the NBA play offs were happening. I usually like to watch the basketball play-offs and my wife said, “If you want a 10, you got to put that grandkid to bed without me asking. You have to not interrupt me when I’m telling a joke because you’re thinking you could tell the punchline better.” She went on saying a lot of things.And a lot of people are afraid to ask questions because they’re afraid what they’re going to hear but you can’t get better without feedback and so that’s the habit that I built into my life.Now, it’s true though because it’s usually some little thing but if you don’t open up the space for it, it usually doesn’t come out. Then you can’t improve the quality of the relationship and I always tell people, “If I don’t ask my wife that, I’m the only one who doesn’t know because she’s told her best friend, her sister, her mother, people in line at Starbuck.” They’re the only ones who know and they can’t fix it.”
Accountability is an essential aspect of secret of success
Jack Canfield But anyway, talking about habits and the other thing that’s really critical to change is that you need to have an accountability partner. So many people are what we call Solo Entrepreneurs today. They’re massage therapists, coaches, authors, speakers, etc. And so they don’t have a boss who tells them what to do. If I tell my staff, “Call Hillary Clinton’s office,” they might be afraid that they’re never going to get through but they’re going to do it because I told them to but I could sit there all day long and be afraid to pick up the phone because no one’s holding me accountable.So one important real secret of success is you have to have an accountability system build in. That can be a coach, a mentor, an accountability partner where you get on the phone every morning as what I teach.Every morning, 5-6 days a week, I’m on the phone with you let’s say and you tell me the 5 things you’re going to do today to accomplish your breakthrough goal or whatever you just committed to in some workshop you just took. Then I’ll tell you the 5 things I’m going to do. I need to do the things that are new, that are a little bit of a stretch, and that are really critical in knowing the secret of success. Not just things on a to-do list but really going to move you forward because most of us tend to do what’s comfortable and not what’s critical.Then tomorrow, we get on the phone again and you tell me if you did those 5 things I’d tell you if you did mine. No excuses just how you’re willing to recommit. If it goes 3-4 days, we start looking at what’s the fear or the block. Maybe I don’t know what I need to know. Maybe I need to have someone hold my hand or I need an introduction. Whatever it is, so I breakthrough.Now, if I do 5 things a day everyday toward my breakthrough goal. A breakthrough goal means every week, I’m doing 25 action steps toward achieving them. To me, that’s the secret of success.If had a tree out in my backyard and I went out with an ax every week and took 25 swipe to that tree, even the largest oak tree would eventually have to come down. And so, that’s a critical piece that most of us tend to not do the things we’re afraid of. And so, then we have look out what’s the fear. I’m sure you know all fears are self-created by imagining scary things that haven’t happened yet happening in the future. We need to realize that overcoming fear is secret of success.And so I imagine I’ll get rejected, I imagine I’ll lose my job, I imagine my boss will get mad at me, I imagine my wife will say I’m a 2 on a scale of 1-10.So, the reality of that is that we have to learn how to handle our fear and basically I use tapping where we tap on these 9 acupuncture points while we say these fear or rejection or this fear of humiliation, fear of loss of money or whatever it might be. We can literally disappear most fears in 5 minutes or less. If you don’t have that technology, you can be ran by fears and phobias your whole life.
Luis CongdonI just want to jump in real quick because I know that people are listening and they’re going, “Tapping, that sounds amazing.” And I want to let you guys know that at thrivinglaunch.com, we will have a link to Jack’s work, his contribution in knowing the secret of success, some of his classes that he’s got, and also we’ll have a link to some of the trainings by Nick Ortner who’s one of the leading experts and teachers on tapping.Continue Jack. I want people to know that these resources are there and there’s a lot of free amazing resources. So tapping doesn’t have to be this big mystery.
Jack Canfield Well, tapping is really, really simple. The first time you do, you need to look at the diagram and see where to tap about. Do that about 5-6x. And then it just becomes second nature. I use it pretty much several times a week in my own life. I use it with my kids. I have them tap before they take tests, my grandchildren, and so forth.So anyway, tapping is really, really simple. Nick’s a really good friend of mine. He’s one of the guys I recommend. I also wrote a book called Tapping and The Ultimate Success where we look at one of the tapping protocols for each of those success principles I’ve been talking about. So whatever comes up in terms of guilt, or fear, or shame, or whatever it might be, in relation to applying that principle.I worked with a woman named Pamela Bruner who’s a tapping expert and we co-author that book but Nick was the guy who basically inspired me to write it.Basically, it’s fear and lack of accountability and then, limiting beliefs. And you can also use tapping to get rid of limiting beliefs.
Overcoming the limiting beliefs and the secret of success
Jack Canfield My favorite exercise for limiting beliefs because you have to surface what are they and often, you don’t know, and so, I will just do a little outline of an exercise and people listening, maybe you could take some notes as you go along and then later, after the podcast, you can go ahead and take yourself through it.But the idea is to close your eyes then think of something in your life that you really want to manifest but for some reason it’s not manifesting. It could be money, a relationship, loss of weight, stop smoking, a better job, whatever it is but something you feel frustrated about or feel stuck. And then, with your eyes closed, noticing how you feel when you think about this stuckness or this lack of manifestation. And then you scan your body from head to toe, looking for any place that’s extremely tight or uncomfortable or painful and something will stand out. Then, just focus on that sensation in your body. And then ask yourself, “Is there a feeling inside of that sensation?” like fear, upset, anger, shame, resignation, hopelessness, or whatever it might me. Then go back to the earliest time in your life when you can remember feeling that same feeling and that same sensations, the ones that physical sensation and the emotion. Honoring your emotions is really important of aspect secret of success in one’s life.Everybody that I’ve ever done this with Luis goes back to sometime between the ages of 3 and 8 years old and they find an event where something was happening they didn’t want. Maybe they’re being ignored, bullied, teased, made fun of, sent in a room, physically hurt, abandoned, or whatever it might be. Then look at what were you wanting you didn’t get. And then what was the decision you made at that point in life? Most people made a decision like, “This will never happen again and to assure that, I will never speak out in public,” “I will never ask for anything,” “I won’t share my feelings,” “I won’t laugh,” “I won’t be sexy,” “I won’t dress up”, whatever it was that got them in trouble.
Luis CongdonTWe make some decision to be safe, to play it safe, and to never go back there again to avoid the pain. Some decisions do not help us knowing the secret of success.
Jack Canfield Exactly.
Luis CongdonBut then we become like that hose that you were talking about because there’s a natural flow for us to maybe I am naturally inclined to be jokester or I actually really love speaking but I made that choice so now I’ve created a kink and the flow of who I am is now being shut off.
Jack Canfield Very beautifully stated. Yes. Absolutely. And once you do that exercise, then you could see that.Then what I ask them to do is imagine a wise, old person coming down. It could be Jesus, it could Buddha, it could be a grandmother, it could be yourself as an old wise person, and to tell you a new decision and explain to you why you’re not responsible for what happened to you.Basically, you’re a good kid. They didn’t mean it. They would have done that to any child. That wasn’t personal to you, etc. And then the new decision, and then go into the future and advise the current self, sitting in a chair, what would you tell your 42-year old self or your 50-year old self in relation to this?When you finish that exercise, I’ve had people come out of that. And one guy do that recently and in 2 days after the seminar, he made 1/5 of his yearly income and went on to triple his income the following year because he’d made a decision around money and his father that he forgot that he made when he was really young.
Secret of success in your life comes down to self-love and appreciation
Luis CongdonI want to jump in and say that I’ve had that personal experience too when at one point in my life I was feeling very wonderful. I was doing this practice where I’d look in the mirror every day and I would just say, “I love you Luis. I appreciate you and you are successful.” Now, when I say this publicly out loud, I’m more confident about it but I used to feel very embarrassed to share this with people but it worked very powerfully for me to look myself in the mirror and give myself compliments. Appreciate yourself for who you are, secret of success in your life comes down from self-love and appreciation. I did this for several weeks and my energy and vibration as we’ve been talking about went up. It skyrocketed. I remember just for several months feeling completely in love with pretty much the whole world, felt like it was just perfect.And I remember one point, I was about to go in my exercise where I was going to compliment myself and I felt this knot, this pain in my throat and I thought for a moment that I want to release this. I don’t know what this is but I want to release this. And I’m just asking the emotion to come up. Whatever it is and these thoughts started to surge and I said, “I just want the feeling please,” and the feeling came up and this knot just got stuck up in my throat. I choked up and started crying and felt this feeling and the voice said, “You can’t be happy because your family in Medellin, Columbia is poor and you can’t be rich and happy because they’re suffering.” And I thought, “Oh my god! This thing has been holding me back for so long because I feel guilty for other people’s pain,” and I made a decision at some point even unconsciously that I couldn’t have more than I would or that I had to feel guilty about having more. It just to me really reiterates what you’re talking about and the importance of doing this exercise you’re sharing.
Jack Canfield One of the things that I teach people is to do a mirror exercise every night before they go to bed. In fact, I just got an email yesterday from a woman named Noreen Kelty in New York and a student of mine who has done this mirror exercise every night for 1,768 days in a row. I was amazed to see how she relates secret of success in her life to this practice.
Kamala Chambers Wow. Amazing.
Jack Canfield Four years and I have to say she’s now one of the happiest and most loving. She was one of those kind of real hard-ass New York, kind of bitchy woman and now she’s one of the most loving, soft, fun, alive, and dynamic people I’ve ever met.One of the things about doing the mirror exercise, and I tell this to people whenever you start shining light and love on yourself, if you’re in a darkened room and you turn the light on, all of a sudden, you could see the things that are there. But the things that block the light create a shadow. We all have shadows inside us like your decision that you couldn’t be comfortable and happy because people were suffering in Columbia.And so what happens is when you start loving yourself and complimenting yourself, it’s going to surface things that had been buried because the love is going to start vibrating all that which is not aligned. Secret of success in your life is to stay in alignment with your inner voice.It’s like your tires when they’re not in alignment, the car start to shake when you go over 60miles/hour. And so, it’s a good thing because it’s showing you there’s something that needs to be aligned and you because you’re conscious, you allowed yourself to be mindful and just pay attention to it and invite it to be there. Then allow it come up and out. That’s all what we really have to do to heal is to allow what’s buried to surface.There are things like we’re talking about that will accelerate that and that’s why being in a workshop with people or being in a coaching experience, you’ve got more energy in the room that’s vibrating your system if you will. So the stuff that stuck, you start to become more aware of it and it could come up to be loosened up. That’s why a group energy, a sad song that people meditating together, people going to ongoing groups, coming to my seminars, coaching with you, listening to this podcast, whatever, as a result of that, what happens is they grow faster and that’s why all through history, people have joined together in tribes, in churches, in spiritual groups, monastery, etc., for that vibrational experience.The other thing I do with our mirror exercise is I tell people start by saying your name, look yourself in the eyes, because the eyes are the windows of the soul, and then say ,”I want to acknowledge you for following things you did today.” Appreciate yourself for actions you did, completions, any temptations you overcome like you didn’t play videogames until 3 in the morning, you didn’t play Words of Friends all day, you worked on your book. And any disciplined you check, you meditated, you ran, you did the Paleo diet, and then, end with “I love you.” If you do that, I promise you, all kinds of stuff will start to move and surface. Sometimes, people within a week or two, their whole life starts to shift because you said like for yourself, you started being in a much more loving, happy place. Self-appreciation is the core secret of success.
Kamala Chambers Really powerful stuff. Before we close out today, is there any last thought regarding secret of success that you want to live the audience with?
Jack Canfield This would sound self-serving but I would say that if you can get a hold of my book, The Success Principles not because I need to make another dollar and 22 cents, but I want you to know the secret of success. I could retire now and so could the next 2 generations of my family on what I’ve already earned and save but what I know is this, if you read the book, you’re going to see that there is a systematic approach to these principles. We’ve only talked about maybe 4 of them today but there’s 64 principles in that book regarding secret of success. 25 of which are critical and it really is like unlocking a lock. I promise you if you buy that book and you don’t think it’s amazing, send it to me now and I’ll send you a check for whatever you paid for because I know it will transform your life.I wish literally, we had a textbook in school like mine or it could be anyone else, that taught us the principles of life and secret of success because we all learn chemistry, biology, mathematics, and sociology. Some were very little of which we use today. However if we learn how to relate to ourselves, to each other, and to the emotions, the mental capacity, our potential in school, we don’t be doing a whole lot better.So The Success Principles, you can get at amazon.com and get a copy. I really promise you it will help you a lot with your life in knowing secret of success.
Kamala Chambers Thank you Jack.
Jack Canfield Thank you Luis and Kamala. I really had a good time. Appreciate it.
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