David Wygant

I am ready to launch!

I didn’t know you were following me for a certain amount of time. I don’t pay attention to this follow-up thing. I feel like it’s a one scary high school in cyberspace. “Oh my God, look who’s following me! A girl I rejected 37 years ago. Whoa! What is that mean?

I am ready to launch.

David Wygant

Oh, my God. We’re talking about one pump chump, one-minute men?

David Wygant

We’re talking about the guys that go back to the 1776 revolution, and they are a one-minute men? The guys that always tell women all the time, “I never seem to cum this fast.” Six months later, they’re still singing the same song, and I got to tell you, women are equally at fault for this issue.

David Wygant

I know you do.

David Wygant

It was a long dramatic pause. It was a tease.

David Wygant

When we talk about sex and when we explain what we want in a partner, and we encourage each other to be the best that we can be, we no longer put up with one pump chump or silent Sally.

Silent Sally is the girl that is having this incredible sexual relationship in her mind, but when it comes down to her having sex, she is accepting one pump chump because she doesn’t want to break his little ego. So to me, the greatest form of sex is all about communication; telling and showing.

There’s a game that I like to call called ‘show and tell.’ Want to hear a little bit about it?

David Wygant

All right.

Men orgasm counters. It’s just unbelievable. It’s like an ego validation. You have a bunch of guys sitting around, and they’d be “Well, she came four point two times.” I don’t know what the point two is.

David Wygant

A point two sucks. It’s like you’re building up again and then all of a sudden, he goes “Oops.” The worse is when the man is zero point two. Those are the worse type of guys.

David Wygant

Show and tell is the greatest thing in the world because you need to show, and you need to tell to train your lover.

This is for every woman listening out there.

If you got a man that you’re dealing with, and he’s having trouble controlling himself, which most men are because most men are porn addict and masturbation junkies, and we all know that sex is not like a porn movie.

When you’re dealing with that type of guy, you need to give him words of encouragement and show him what works.

“Oh honey, I love when you do the circular up and down method like a jackhammer on a city street. That makes me cum hard.” The man feels validated.

David Wygant

“I love when you’re on top of me, and you gaze into my eyes, and you talk dirty to me, and you say, X, Y, and Z. It turns me on so much.”

By telling a man what you like, you’re showing him what you like, and you’re training him to be a better lover, and too many women are silent Sallies. They just accept bad sex.

By showing and telling a man what you like, you’re training him to be a better lover.

David Wygant

First off, the man’s got to stop with the porn addiction to learn how to be a better lover.

David Wygant

Not only that. It’s disgusting to watch some dude banging some random chick. I don’t get it. I don’t want to see another man’s ass gyrating in the air. It does not turn me on.

So I tell men there’s a 30-day rule.

David Wygant

When you start dating somebody, you need to stop the masturbation, and you need to stop the porn. It’s because the masturbation is training your body to cum way too quickly as you watch visuals of things that are never going to happen.

You’re never going to dress up as the FedEx guy coming into the office and be admired by the receptionist and banging her while the boss is buzzing her buzzer. It’s stupid. Porn is ridiculous, and it means nothing.

David Wygant

You want to train your brain to the sensuality to learn how to be a better lover. You need to start writing down what is sensual to you. What do you like? What do you enjoy? You need to write down almost your sexual wish list so you can start communicating and training your body to have a woman get you off slowly.

Also, you need to learn during sex that if you feel the need to cum quickly, stop in the middle of it, breathe, literally hold her tight, connect with her, kiss a little bit. You got to slow your body down to last. Those are some things you can do. That’s just a start.

We can go on for an hour, but we only have 10 to 12 minutes, and if we could just get him in the last 10 to 12 minutes, it’ll be a much better experience for a woman than the one, two seconds she’s having now.

David Wygant

Yeah.

The breath is everything.

The fact is foreplay is everything. This is something I learned when I was a kid. My mom had these horny friends. I was watching The Love Boat, and then Fantasy Island would come on. It was just nothing exciting about Mr. Roarke and Tattoo. I always wanted to have a tattoo of Tattoo on my leg because I thought that’d be kind of cool.

So, I went down to my mom’s friends. My mom’s friends were all stoned and drunk, and I was 14 years old, and they taught me the greatest lesson because they’d be talking about sex, and I had a magic power of making myself invisible. They would say, “We say this in front of your son?” And my mom would be like, “Yeah, he’s cool.”

David Wygant

I learned at a young age that the most important thing you need to do in a relationship is to get her to cum first. Figure out what she needs, what she wants, what feels good to her, what combination of tongue, mouth, hands, how you seduce her, how you kiss her body.

Because once you get a woman swollen and all turned on, and orgasmic, it doesn’t make a difference on how much you move when you’re inside her because she’s already primed and she’s lubricated, and she’s already in that orgasm zone. What happens is, she’ll start having a much better experience, and she’ll be more open to receiving.

Too many guys go in too fast without doing foreplay, and she’s just not ready.

David Wygant

Ask her. It’s all part of the show and tell.

David Wygant

What makes a man a good lover? When you’re out with her and you know you’re going to start sleeping with her, ask her.

You’re fooling around on the couch. You know you’re going to sleep with her over the next week or two. Look at her and go, “I want to know what turns you on. I want to know what you like.”

I always tell women this all the time.

Whenever I’m with a woman, I always look at her, and I always say, “I’m in it to have the best relationship, and I’m in it to have the best sex of my life. So I’m open to whatever suggestions and I want to know what turns you on. I want to know what you’re into. What feels good? Don’t be shy. When I’m going down on you, don’t just go ‘oh and ah.’”

David Wygant

“If I’m doing something great, tell me I’m doing something great. If you want it faster, if you want it harder, if you want a little more pressure, if you want me to take the pressure off, guide me and tell me because you have to drop the ego.

Communication is everything in the bedroom. If you can communicate in the bedroom and not be shy be about it, you then can train each other to be the best lovers in the world.

David Wygant

We all want to be this great lover for each other, but let’s face it, we’re not going to know everything somebody wants, and people know their bodies better than we do.

So there’s no problem showing. You can also do a show and tell too. You can do mutual masturbation in front of each other so you can watch the way that she moves her hand down there to know the type of rhythm she needs to have an orgasm. There are so many things you can do on how to be a better lover.

David Wygant

First off, they need to put the kids aside.

Hello kids, hello baby, hello mommy, daddy role, and you need to start looking at each other as sexual beings that you are, and you need to start going out on a date again, but then, you also need to start communicating.

Once again, sex is never going to make a comeback unless you communicate. I’m a huge communicator. In everything that I do and everything that I teach, communication and authenticity are essential, and learning how to be vulnerable is great.

David Wygant

Talk about it with compassion. “Hey, I love you. You’re beautiful. You’re the mother of my children.” or, “Hey, you’re the father of my children. I love you, but I’d like to get our sex life back on track again. Maybe we should rent a hotel room in the city and have grandma and grandpa take care of the kids, and we should bring some massage oils and other things. And get a book about Tantra and learn new things to do to one another.”

Because if you still love one another, that’s half the battle. You still respect each other. That’s half the battle. You could start screening things into the bedroom by once again, communicating, and trying different things out, and bring that sex life back.

David Wygant

Yeah.

David Wygant

I got a mantra in life. Every single day, I wake up, and my mantra is this, “I surrender in the beautiful gift called light. I will surrender to every amazing moment that life gives me, and I will embrace every single lesson that is being surrendered and being shown to me today.” It’s because that’s what it’s all about.

It’s about surrendering and being present because life will give you what you need whether it’s sex or a conversation you need to have or a lesson you may take to embrace.

Can I tell people where to find me?

David Wygant

All right, good.

David Wygant

Every single day, I do a podcast called The 10 Minute Daily Reality Check, which gives you a lesson on how to live a different, more powerful, successful reality for love, dating, health, wealth, everything.

It’s about changing your perspective on a daily basis to evolve your soul and your being into being the best person that you can be.